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Traveling as a Solo Woman: Common Questions, Tips and Why You Should Do It

Thank you to Morgan at Baby Got Balance for hosting my guest post!

We had discussed what would be a good topic for me to write about and it was mentioned to talk about solo traveling as a female.

I thought of it and decided to break down my post in three parts: Common Questions I was asked, Tips on How to Be Safe and Why Solo Traveling is Amazing.

I received these questions and comments from men as well as women and even though what I am saying can apply to men too, I am just focusing on women.

Common Questions

What is it like traveling alone?

Not going to lie, it can be lonely. When you are sitting in a bus for a few hours with no one to talk with or you just got done with a museum and would like to talk with someone about it over lunch…it is a bit lonely. But the freedom I get to do what I want and to talk with whoever offsets those few moments. And those few moments are rare because I am usually doing it with someone I have just befriended.

Spent a day hiking in Bromont, Quebec, close to Montreal, by myself

What is it like traveling as a woman?

Well, I haven’t traveled as a man before, but I know I have my guard up more often than my male travel friends. I am more wary of random individuals in bars or shops- men and women. There are some things that I have to take note of as well such as my monthly cycle. Many places don’t have tampons or very limited pad options, but to counter this I started using the Diva cup, please see my post here about it, and it is truly heavenly. I also don’t carry that much stuff. I rarely put on make-up and so I rarely bring it with me on travels. I don’t normally wear jewelry, so I also don’t bring much of it. At the end of the day, women can travel very efficiently and I recommend it.

Aren’t you afraid?

There is always an element of fear. Fear of being raped, fear of being kidnapped, fear of being alone…especially from all the Hollywood movies like Taken. But, at the end of the day, if I let fear control me, I wouldn’t leave my house. I would still be living at my parents’ house probably.  

No one wanted to come with you?

I only received this question once, but it surprised me. Not the question itself, but more my response. It had never occurred to me to ask someone to come with me or for me to wait for someone to come with me. I just started traveling. As I told the young woman who asked me, one day on a bus in the Balkans, I didn’t ask anyone and if I had waited for anyone, I probably wouldn’t have gone anywhere. She just looked at me and said she can’t go unless she has someone. It is a valid feeling, but there is always an excuse NOT to do something. We have to find the excuse TO DO it. Most of the time when I have paired with someone or in a group it is because they have asked me to tag along- which is also awesome! I am happy to be the excuse for people to travel and explore!

My Czech friend wanted to visit me while I was traveling and so she met me while I was in Asia for two weeks!

You might meet someone while traveling!

This isn’t a question, but still a valid thought. This statement usually implies that the reason I am traveling or a cool bonus would be if I met some hunky man and he swept me off my feet (or woman). I mean, yeah, to have a Hollywood movie romance would be a lovely situation, but it isn’t my point of traveling and I wasn’t looking for it. For those who I have seen look for it, it never really happened anyways, so you might as well travel for the sake of traveling, for seeing the world and experiencing other cultures and if the right person comes along then it truly is a bonus. I have a post about it here.

How did you decide on the places you go?

I don’t really have a plan or idea. I go with my gut. I am a big believer in following your gut. If I felt like there is more to see in a city, I stay longer. If I feel like going to this particular country is the right choice, I do so. Or I have a goal and somehow, to reach it, I end up going another path. For example, I knew I wanted to get to Naples, Italy, but the cheapest option was to go to Bari, Italy first. I had no idea about Bari, but once I got there, I really fell for the city and I am so glad I went.

Another example, I knew I wanted to get out of the Schengen Zone in Europe (a specific zone that has the same immigration law for external visitors, it is different than the Euro Zone), but didn’t know where. I looked up Workaway, a program that lets you travel to a location, live with a host, and help them do whatever needs to be done. I worked at a hostel changing sheets and received free room and breakfast every day that I worked. I also didn’t know much about Serbia beforehand, but Belgrade is now one of my favorite cities! Read more about this experience here.

This goes along with being free solo. If I was traveling with someone, I wouldn’t necessarily have the flexibility to just go somewhere. I would have to talk and compromise over decisions. I have traveled in pairs and groups before, and I enjoyed that style as well, but there is something to be said about having complete control over your path.

Seeing the Great Wall was on my list but going to China at this particular moment was very random, I just went with my gut.

Travel Tips

Be aware of your surroundings & follow your gut

When I was traveling, I didn’t purposely go into dark alleys or places my gut was telling me were unsafe. In Buenos Aires, everyone told me that the neighborhood La Boca was not safe. After 6 months, I decided to fully explore the neighborhood besides the tourist part. A few blocks away from the tourists, everything was quiet and eerie. I immediately went back to the tourist area. My gut was telling me something and I listened. Maybe I would have been OK. Maybe my gut was telling me no only because I have heard too many things bad about it, but either way, it is better safe and sorry when it comes to following your gut.

I have also been told how dangerous Italy is because one of my woman friends was in a group and was still almost pick pocketed. But yet, my experience in Italy was completely pleasant and I had no trouble. I had traveled solo as well as in group through Italy and both were fine.

I have also had no problems in Asia or South America. One might say it is because I physically fit in, but I also think I was a bit smarter with how I traveled.

For example, I wasn’t rearranging my bag in taxis. One woman I knew in Buenos Aires decided to rearrange her purse in the taxi resulting in her leaving her iPad by accident. Even though she called the company, her iPad was never seen again.

Don’t call attention to yourself

This is easier as a solo traveler than in groups as groups often talk in the native language and might be a bit louder than normal as they are having a good time talking and laughing.

As a solo traveler, I wore neutral clothes with no words and no fanciful colors or designs. This also helps with packing. If all colors are neutral, matching is easier.

The only time I felt harassed for my gender, I mean in a sexual way, was in Malaysia. I was wearing a normal tank top, but for this heavily Muslim country, one man openly glared at my breasts. It made me uncomfortable and unsafe.

I learned from this experience, rather be hot and safe with a long sleeves then cool and unsure. I don’t agree with this from a feminist stand point, but as another phrase goes: when in Rome, do what the Romans do. Don’t stand out, don’t wear clothing that isn’t truly “normal” for that country or culture.

Travel light and wear your purse/backpack in front

For traveling light, this can be your actual luggage. As a solo traveler, I have one backpack for everything and a smaller one for day trips. While walking the streets, I have a small purse that just carries the essentials (wallet, passport, phone, water, etc.) This purse always remains in front and I usually walk around with my hand still on the main part with all the pockets (not the strap). I wear a purse with long straps and make sure it crosses my body rather than on one shoulder. If I wear a backpack, I keep it in the front of me especially if I have my valuables (wallet, passport, etc.) inside and especially if it is a crowded area.

Why Solo Traveling is Amazing

You can do what you want

There is no compromise. There is no negotiating. If you want to see that museum or eat at that restaurant, you do it!

I got to scuba dive in the Philippines! It was amazing. Worth it!

You are more open to meeting people

You might not believe it, but when I travel alone, I would talk with so many different people. When I had a partner, I tended to stick to that person. It is easier to stick to someone you know than try and make new friends. Or, if you and your partner are interested in meeting new people, it is intimidating for other travelers to approach the pair because it is obvious there is already history. It is like jumping into a conversation halfway through- you don’t really know what is going on and it is more effort to understand the other part of the conversation. I say this as being someone who has tried entering groups or pairs while traveling. Sometimes the pair or group is open to me, but sometimes they are not. It is hard to tell at the very beginning.

Many of my close friends, I feel, come from traveling. When you meet other solo travelers, you both are in the same space of: we need to make friends, we want to have these social interactions. But on top of that, they have two similar interest to you- love of travel, and the courage to go alone! Read more about the different types of travelers I met on the road here.

Got to meet these cool cats from a variety of places and we happened to be in the same city on the same day! Partay!

You earn a lot of courage and confidence

Traveling solo definitely builds your confidence in yourself and, therefore, encourages more courage later. Once you do something, the next big thing won’t look so big and you realize that you did something similar so this will be fine as well. Traveling solo has given me different perspectives in life in terms of different cultures, but also on myself. It showed me who I really was since I was away from family and long-term friends. I was away from per-conceived ideas of what I was supposed to do and act. I could become anyone I wanted and I could act anyway I pleased, but most importantly I could just be who I really was: I could just be me.

For example, I traveled with two friends on two separate occasions. They had known me through a school context and had this idea and role for me in their mind, like a mentor role. When we started traveling together, I assumed that role once again, even though my travel self, or rather, my normal self, wasn’t necessarily this. Versus, those I have met while traveling have seen a different side of me that my friends couldn’t really grasp.

 I am not saying I was fake with my friends, but they only saw one side of me while traveling enabled all aspects of who I am to come out and flourish.

Cambodia was also another random country. It just made sense with my travel plans and I got to celebrate my birthday there with some great people!

I hope this gives you more insight into why I travel solo and why I think it should be tried at least once. One of my friends that I mentioned earlier who has placed that mentor role on me, visited me in Europe and traveled backpacker style. It was her first time and she shared with me her thoughts, you can see it here. She was glad she tried it, even if it wasn’t solo, but she prefers the travel style of groups and well-organized tours. That’s totally fair and I am proud she gave it a try.

Bonne voyage!

This article was contributed by Marinella Yule of travel blog. She has traveled throughout North America and to over 40 countries. She is currently working on improving her third language (French) and sometimes writes blogs in Spanish as well. You can learn more about her work through her website:



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  1. Kelly| Citytoast2southerntea

    December 9, 2019 at 11:00 am

    This is great and you are very brave. With all the crazy going on in the world you just have to be very careful.

  2. Stephanie

    December 9, 2019 at 5:15 pm

    This was such an interesting read. As someone who has considered solo travel in the past, but hasn’t gotten to it yet, it’s really fascinating to read others’ perspectives on the topic. Thank you so much for sharing this guest post!

  3. Beth

    December 9, 2019 at 8:46 pm

    I think it is great that you are seeing the world! All of my sisters traveled solo and had some amazing trips. I am glad you are smart and staying safe, these are great tips that I’ll share with my daughter.

  4. Kileen

    December 10, 2019 at 1:01 am

    I absolutely love traveling and you are so inspiring! Definitely makes me want to book a spontaneous trip out and travel solo!

    cute & little

  5. Becky

    December 10, 2019 at 9:30 am

    I’ve really enjoyed my solo travel, though you do have to take precautions, especially as a woman. I loved the response to the question about why didn’t you ask someone to come with you! Especially if it’s not someone you really want to travel with – traveling with someone can be a difficult thing and you shouldn’t go with whoever just for the sake of having another body there.

  6. Monica

    December 10, 2019 at 9:50 am

    What an empowering experience! I have never traveled alone, mostly out of fear, but your take on it really gives me a new perspective on why I should try it!

  7. Christa

    December 10, 2019 at 11:59 am

    I love traveling and do it however and as often as I can. It’s been a while since I’ve had a solo trip but traveling solo is definitely different that traveling with others. I enjoy both for different reasons!

  8. Ewa

    December 16, 2019 at 10:27 pm

    Great tips. The fact that you are more open to meeting people and also better getting to know places if you travel alone is in my opinion the biggest advantage.

  9. Michael

    December 17, 2019 at 1:03 am

    Wow! Very nice post. It seems you are very strong-willed. I want to try to travel alone too but I dont have enough confidence yet to do it haha!

  10. Shar

    December 17, 2019 at 7:02 am

    Wow! Through your words, I can feel the joy and excitement of travelling in solo as a woman. I also agree that there are some threats/risks. I personally only took the plane alone once in my life, but then family friends greeted me at the airport. Otherwise, I only get to travel in a group.

  11. Marjie Mare

    December 17, 2019 at 9:01 am

    This is quite an adventure. I have travelled solo for work purposes. I have to try a solo tip and will use your tips.

  12. Nina

    December 17, 2019 at 3:00 pm

    you are inspiring and very brave. I love travelling. You have many great adventures ahead.

  13. Nayna Kanabar

    December 18, 2019 at 6:03 am

    I admire people who solo travel. Your post includes lots of safety tips and it’s really reassuring to know that you take extreme care and are cautious about your surroundings .

  14. Khushboo

    December 19, 2019 at 6:16 am

    I have never traveled solo but would love to travel solo sometime. Your tips are really helpful girl.

  15. Viano Dee

    December 19, 2019 at 6:13 pm

    I found this really interesting and very relatable. Traveling alone can be lonely but fun too especially if you’re a social person because you’ll get to meet people.

  16. Bekki

    December 20, 2019 at 5:09 pm

    Great article, thank you. I loved travelling when I was younger (still do, but the opportunities and itineraries are somewhat different with two kids in tow!). I often opted for small group tours.

  17. Angella

    December 20, 2019 at 5:34 pm

    This is so inspiring. I wish I had the money & time to have traveled when I was single during my younger days. Spent too much time sheltered studying for nursing boards. But now that I met my husband I am able to explore the world…some of these tips are helpful still. Thanks for sharing!

  18. Ann

    December 20, 2019 at 6:16 pm

    Very inspriring post 🙂

  19. Jenn - The Solivagant Soul

    December 21, 2019 at 1:45 am

    I am also a solo traveler too and I have to say that angries me a lot that people assume that I travel on my own because I have no friends or noone to go with. I love traveling on my own because I dont need to compromise, because I can follow my own itinerary and my own speed. Because I like the freedom and empowerment. Would be lovely for people to learn more about why people travel solo. So thanks for your post!

  20. Jessica

    December 22, 2019 at 5:08 pm

    Great tips! I love to travel solo! I’m actually planning a trip this summer by myself…well, except my dog lol. He’s my protector on these trips 🙂

    1. admin

      December 31, 2019 at 5:36 pm

      That sounds amazing, Jessica! Where are you headed?

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